To Get Your Ex Back Play The Waiting Game |
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 May 11, 2008 |
by Molly Laws
You and your partner have split up. You’ve thought about the situation and concluded that a big mistake has been made. You and your ex are made for each other. You are going to get your ex back.
You feel so strongly that this break up is all a mistake that you want to contact your ex not now, but right now. By phone, email, text or in person you are determined to get in touch with your ex and explain that this break up is not right.
If you succumb to this temptation to contact your ex chances are you will only drive your former partner even further away. Hard as it may be for you to do, you have to be patient, you have to wait.
The Split Happened for a Reason
You and your ex have split up for a reason, or more likely for several reasons. The cause may not make sense to you but it is still important. If now, soon after the break up, you charge into making contact with your ex, demanding to be heard, you will make the situation even worse than it already is.
It may be hard for you to do but now is the time for patience, you have to wait.
How long you have to wait before initiating contact is a decision only you can make. The circumstances of the break up will help you to judge.
If the break up happened over quite a long period, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger when you broke up, wait longer.
Think about the kind of person your ex is and how long it may take him or her to cool off and calm down. When you are sure you know how long that period might be, double the time.
Use the Time Wisely
You have a waiting period to get through so use the time for some introspection and self-improvement.
Don’t beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are aware of these problems and are really trying to make corrections.
Patience is key at this early stage. Practice self-control, don’t rush things and work to improve yourself and you have a great chance of not only getting your ex back but becoming a better person as well.
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