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by Millard Scott
Most people have been through a break up at some point in their life. With many things in life they become easier the more you have to go through them, but break ups never seem to get any easier to go through.
Many people that go through a break up will desire to get back their ex, especially if they had strong feelings for their partner. If you have been in a relationship in which you had to endure physical, or verbal abuse, then you are much better off to let it end and never look to get involved with that person again. To go back into a situation like that, would be to invite the same type of treatment next time around. Consider yourself lucky to be out of the relationship.
The Majority of relationships seem to follow a predictable pattern. When you first meet, everything seems to be so wonderful and new. It seems that your love can do nothing wrong, nor can you in their eyes. Later on a certain amount of comfort settles in and you adjust to each other. This is when the troubles usually starts. When the freshness of the relationship has faded and the comfort is still there, then things will start to change. The little things that used to not bother you now become harder for you to overlook.
Remember the saying: “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Truer words could never be spoken for relationships. After a couple gets comfortable and familiar with each other, the trouble usually follows. This is the thing that tests the strength of a relationship. It takes some effort and work to keep a relationship going. Sometimes when things go wrong, instead of fixing things up, the other person wants to get out of the relationship completely.
If you have just went through a break up in a relationship and you think that it is worth as effort to save it, here are 5 tips that can be of help.
1. Apologize to your partner
If you feel that you have done something wrong you should apologize to your ex. Just make your apology once and then move on. Do not over apologize to the point of looking and sounding pathetic.
When apologizing do not let your ex bait you into an argument. Sometimes saying that you are sorry to an ex can lead to another fight. If your ex brings something else up, just stay calm and don’t get defensive. Keep you emotions, your ego, and your pride in check.
2. Sit down and talk about things
Take some time for the both of you to sit down and have a good talk. Never use your emotions to attempt to force your ex into this discussion. If they do not want to do this, then simply move on to the next step. If they do agree to the discussion you will want to stay calm and unemotional during the talk. Make sure your ex understands that the purpose of the talk is not to try to bring blame on them.
3. Give your ex some space
This will likely not be easy to do because it is counter intuitive to what your emotions may dictate you to do. It is critical that you allow your partner some space and a brief time away to collect their thoughts. This will give them a chance to start to miss you again. If you are constantly in contact with them they will not have the chance to miss you and appreciate you.
4. Show your ex that you care about yourself
Instead of just sitting around the house all the time, you need to get out with friends, go to movies, go to concerts, or whatever. Take care of your health and keep up your appearance. Do things that demonstrate to your ex that you are not pathetically sitting around waiting on them to rescue you.
5. Don’t be always available to your ex.
It is actually a good thing for you to not be available to your ex at their every beckoning call. If the cell phone rings and you see that the call is from your ex, don’t be so eager to just jump out of your shoes to answer the call. Let the call go to your voice mail and call them back the next day. This may go against your emotions, but this psychological tactic will cause your ex to wonder what you are up to. It will make you seem more attractive to them, because you are not so easy and convenient to them when they snap their fingers. This tactic will increase the chance of getting back with your ex in the long run.
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